I was recently invited to contribute a chapter to a newly published book, “Who Needs Prince Charming?” Its subjects are women who have seemingly built a successful life without the assistance of said royalty, or indeed any men at all.
When I was growing up, I was quite insecure about how I looked and had low expectations of attracting any, and certainly not THE good-looking boy at school - let alone the prince. I did, however, have a strong and determinedly independent (read: difficult and rebellious) streak that got me into trouble, but provided my drive and focus.
Looking for a man to help me get where I was going was never part of my plan. I would have called myself a feminist – actually I still do. It’s not a word I shy away from, nor one that has negative connotations for me. Equally, I always imagined that I would end up in a long-term relationship with a man, which I did. My first important relationship started at age 15 and lasted until I was 23. I’ve since married a man that I met at university and we’ve been together 25 years.
While I didn’t necessarily need Prince Charming to create the life I have created, the fact is that I’ve had very important relationships to back me up all the way. The serious boyfriend at a young age, a significant and tolerant husband with excellent family-management skills, and a supportive birth family have all helped provide the stable base we probably all need when it comes to creating a balanced and fulfilling life. And my friends would kill me if I didn’t mention that they have to tolerate my occasionally explosive, often irritating personality traits. Those same traits that lead to control of your life can be very difficult to live with.
So yes, my ‘success’ has definitely resulted from hard work, perseverance, drive, a little bit of arrogance (actually more than that) and a lot of self-belief. But don’t ever be fooled by the appearance of the ‘success’ factor. I’m pretty sure that behind the scenes of someone’s fabulous story demonstrating you don’t need Prince Charming, there will be a woman with her team of people – those who have helped shape her life and pointed her in the right direction. That’s certainly the case with me.
Fabulous news! We’ve got twenty copies of “Who needs Prince Charming” to give to our bh members. Who wants one? For your chance to win, simply tell us – in the comments section below – how your Prince Charming or Fairy Godmother has helped get you to where you are today.
Competition closes midnight Monday 29th August, 2011.
How has your Prince Charming or Fairy Godmother helped you to get where you are today?